Positive Coping Skills + Mechanisms

Hey Soul Family,

We’ve been getting in deep with the emotions and trauma talk recently, so I wanted to go over some positive coping skills to add to your arsenal. Many of us were traumatized as children and as a result we developed trauma responses. Many of us were not taught positive ways to deal with our emotions. Our own parents don’t know how to deal with their emotions, and they sure as hell didn’t know how to deal with ours. This left a huge deficiency in the way that we deal with our emotions as adults. Many of us succumb to stressors because we don’t know how to deal in any other way than our trauma responses. Today we’re going to go over some positive coping skills for dealing with the stress or anxiety that you feel when your emotions get triggered.

BE KIND. There is a good chance that if you are here you will have a critical voice in your head. This voice is the same critical voice that was spoken to you as a child. It is the voice of your abusers, NOT your voice. Be kind to yourself. Be friendly with yourself. Find compassion for yourself by speaking to yourself as if you are speaking to your inner child. Be very mindful of the words you use with yourself. Become self-aware about this. Are the words you use empowering or disempowering?

Meditate. Allowing yourself to take some deep breaths, practicing mindful meditation, grounding yourself, or just allowing yourself to practice that breathe work can go a long way. Whether you are just breathing deeply or being more mindful, meditation is beneficial in so many ways. With over 50 benefits, it is one of the best ways to regulate our mind, body, and spirit. This will also help if you tend to be impulsive.

Write a letter. You can write a letter to the person or people who have hurt you. Allow yourself to flow freely and be as honest as possible. You do not have to ever give the person the letter or send it to them. You can choose to write it then burn it, rip it, or bury it. The second part it about releasing what you have written. Choose a way to release that resonates the most with you.

Listen to music or play an instrument. Music resonates at a certain frequency and can be used to lift your mood or frequency. You can also choose to tap into your divine feminine aspect by making music and playing an instrument.

Paint, draw, or color. If you aren’t very artistic, you could always purchase an adult coloring book or print some coloring pages for free online.

Crochet, knit, or sew. These activities can help to relieve stress while helping to keep your mind focused. You can find free patterns online.

Exercise. You can choose to go with a spiritual exercise like yoga or take a hike or bike ride through nature. You can also choose to go to the gym or just stretch at home. If you don’t happen to live next to a forest to hike in, you can check out your local parks. Exercising and moving the body helps to release endorphins which can help regulate emotions.

Clean. You can declutter your closets or clean up your space. This often helps to shift ones emotions and helps to lighten up the space you live in.

Watch a feel good show or movie. Feel good movies, cartoons, and comedies for the win here. You can even choose to watch something that you enjoyed as a child for extra added bonus points here.

Journal. You can choose to write about your emotions or feelings. If you don’t know where to start answer these questions. What am I feeling? Why am I feeling this way? What made me feel this way? What are my feelings rooted in?

Read. Catch up on your favorite genre.

Eating healthy. Eating healthier foods full of light energy like fresh produce can help keep the body within higher frequencies.

Play with your pets. For some people having an emotional support animal is extremely effective for helping with emotions.


Well Soul Fam, I hope that this information has helped you with connecting some dots. Until next time… Sending mucho luz + amor always!

Luna Estrellas

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  • Love and appreciate the time and effort you put in your blog 🫶🏽 , very helpful


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